And have no fellowship with the
unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them. For it is a shame even to speak of those things which are
done of them in secret (Ephesians 5:11-12);
Even as Sodom and Gomorrah, and the
cities about them in like manner, giving themselves over to fornication, and
going after strange flesh, are set forth for an example, suffering the
vengeance of eternal fire. Likewise also
these filthy dreamers defile the flesh, despise
dominion, and speak evil of dignities (Jude
1:7-8).
This continuing series of blogs deals with the
prevalent plague of SEXUAL SINS in the Church. Christians
who practice sexual sin are usually dealing with deep, underlying, unresolved SOUL
issues. The SOUL consists of the mind, will,
and emotions. When the SOUL
of a person is suffering, sexual immorality is a byproduct. It is time for Christians to receive the
grace that God has given us, for it is by grace and through faith, that we can
live holy.
If we
could see into the SOUL of sexually promiscuous men and women in
the body of Christ, we would see what God sees—the lack of healthy affection
needed during their formative and growing years. These people usually fall into a snare of
searching for love and affection in all the wrong places and in a perverted
manner, which is evident in sexual immorality.
Sexual lust is a raging fire that can never be satisfied or extinguished
because the desire comes from Satan, not God.
Sexual immorality opens the door to a host of negative emotions,
spiritual consequences and even physical repercussions. There is truth in the saying: “Sin
will take you farther than you want to go, keep you longer than you want to
stay, and cost more than you want to pay.”
My first blog dealt with the sins of
Homosexuality and Lesbianism. Today’s blog
deals with the secret sexual sins of Masturbation, Cybersex, and Pornography.
MASTURBATION & CYBERSEX
Masturbation is all about SELF and
PLEASING SELF
(2 Timothy
3:4). It has nothing to do
with anyone except the person who practices it.
Satan, the Father of Lies, will say that masturbation is OK; that it is
healthy and releases pent-up frustration and stress. He will say that it is a person’s “right” to
do with his body, as he pleases. (This
is the same LIE that he tells pregnant women, to get them to abort their unborn
babies.) He will even say that a person
is not hurting himself or anyone else.
Masturbation’s
origin is EVIL
and should be called what it is—the Unclean spirit of masturbation! This demon spirit is not of God and no matter
how many times you masturbate, you will never please God by yielding to and serving
this spirit. God will never praise or
bless you for masturbating. Masturbation
hurts you spiritually. By giving place
to the unclean spirit of masturbation, you grieve the Holy Spirit (Ephesians
4:30). The Bible clearly
teaches Christians that we are not to “give place” to the devil (Ephesians
4:27).
Masturbation is
another “open door,” which if opened, will give demon spirits free license to
possess and control you. DON’T GO THERE! Masturbation will never draw you nearer to
God. It is morally wrong and if you want
to stop doing it, then recognize it as a SIN and call it a SIN that, inasmuch
as it feels good to the body, is not worth spending eternity in Hell for.
The
average person will do many things in the company of their friends or in
private that they would not do around their children because they know that particular
behavior is morally wrong. If
masturbation was indeed a virtuous act, then we could do it in front of our
children, parents, family, and boss. If masturbation was truly a virtuous act,
then it would not be featured in pornography. On the contrary, masturbation is something
that most people always do in secret.
But even in secret, it does not please God, who sees and hears everything
(Psalms 139:7-8).
Even in secret, it is still morally wrong.
Is the word masturbation
in The Bible? No!
Does this mean that masturbation is not sinful? No! In The
Bible, masturbation falls within the category of FORNICATION because it
represents sexual immorality and impurity.
And, Brothers and Sisters, demon spirits are responsible!
To understand
how God feels about masturbation and cybersex, we must examine other verses
that deal with issues like LUST, SELF-CONTROL and PURITY (James 1:14; Galatians 5:16, 23; Matthew 5:8; Hebrews
12:14). And, as Jesus taught,
we must examine the FRUIT of
masturbation to know if it is of God, or not.
Does God care
about what we do in the privacy of our bedrooms? Yes! God
wants to be included and involved in every aspect of our Christian life. Sex is God’s invention. He masterminded this beautiful expression of
love that was created out of His own heart, to be experienced between a husband
and wife. It is only between a
heterosexual man and woman that this manifestation of intimacy can be fully
enjoyed in the depth for which God created it.
Merriam-Webster’s definition of
the word masturbation is “erotic
stimulation especially of one's own genital organs commonly resulting in orgasm
and achieved by manual or other bodily contact exclusive of sexual intercourse,
by instrumental manipulation, occasionally by sexual fantasies, or by various
combinations of these agencies.”
An older definition is “self-abuse.”
WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS ABOUT
ABUSING YOUR BODY
Know you not that the unrighteous
shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor
idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with
mankind, Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor
extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God (1
Corinthians 6:9-10);
But he that is joined unto the Lord is
one spirit. Flee fornication. Every sin that a man does is without the body;
but he that commits fornication sins against his own body. What? know you not
that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which you
have of God, and you are not your own? For you are bought with a price:
therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's (1 Corinthians 6:17-20).
IF YOU MASTURBATE & ENGAGE IN CYBERSEX,
“SELF” & “THE FLESH” ARE ON THE THRONE!
Then said Jesus unto His disciples,
If any man will come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his
cross, and follow Me (Matthew 16:24);
And they that are Christ's have
crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts (Galatians 5:24);
IF YOU MASTURBATE & ENGAGE IN CYBERSEX,
“THE FLESH” IS HAVING ITS WAY!
Now the works of the flesh are
manifest, which are these; adultery, fornication, uncleanness,
lasciviousness, idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath,
strife, seditions, heresies, envyings, murders, drunkenness, revelings, and
such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in
time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God (Galatians 5:19-21).
This I say
then, Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh (Galatians 5:16).
For as many as are led by the Spirit
of God, they are the sons of God (Romans 8:14).
MASTURBATION BEGINS IN THE MIND
All sexual
immorality begins with a thought.
Remember, Satan’s battlefield is the mind. A lustful thought that is not immediately taken
captive will eventually lead to other perversions because sin reproduces itself
in increasingly greater measures. If we
do not deal with every evil thought (fiery dart) of the enemy, they will drop
down in our hearts, take root, and bear rotten fruit (Ephesians 6:16).
Masturbation is
a SIN
of the SOUL
(mind, will and emotions) and BODY. Since masturbation is conceived in the mind,
it is an “affair of the mind” because it produces sexual sin inflicted against
one’s own body. Although it brings a
short lived gratification, it makes one feel defiled when continued on a
regular basis.
THE FRUIT OF MASTURBATION & CYBERSEX
Masturbation
encourages SELF-Focus,
SELF-Love,
and SELF-Gratification;
This know also, that in the last
days perilous times shall come. For men shall be lovers of their own selves,
covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful,
unholy (2 Timothy 3:1-2);
For all seek their own, not the
things which are Jesus Christ's (Philippians 2:21).
Masturbation
keeps a Christian in a state of condemnation because he is imprisoned on a
carnal, flesh level that prevents him from growing and maturing, spiritually;
There is therefore
now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the
flesh, but after the Spirit (Romans 8:1).
For if you live after the flesh, you
shall die: but if you through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, you
shall live. For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of
God (Romans 8:13-14).
Masturbation
elevates sexual self-gratification to a “god” status, which constitutes
idolatry. Who is your god? Your sexuality or God Almighty?;
You shall have no other gods before
Me … You shall not bow down yourself to them, nor serve them: for I the LORD your
God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the
children unto the third and fourth generation of them that hate me And showing
mercy unto thousands of them that love Me, and keep My commandments (Exodus 20:3,5-6).
Masturbation
encourages fantasy, visualization and other forms of sexual immorality like phone
sex, cybersex and pornography. The Bible
is very clear about what God expects of us in the areas of fantasy and lust.
And GOD saw that the wickedness of
man was great in the earth, and that every imagination of the
thoughts of his heart was only evil continually (Genesis
6:5);
For all that is in the world,
the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not
of the Father, but is of the world (1 John 2:16);
(For the weapons of our warfare are
not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strongholds;) Casting
down imaginations, and every high thing that exalts itself against the
knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of
Christ (2 Corinthians 10:4-5);
For they that are after the flesh do
mind the things of the flesh; but they that are after the Spirit the things of
the Spirit. For to be carnally-minded is death; but to be spiritually-minded
is life and peace. Because the carnal mind is enmity against God:
for it is not subject to the law of God, neither indeed can be. So then they
that are in the flesh cannot please God. But you are not in the flesh, but in
the Spirit, if so be that the Spirit of God dwell in you. Now if any man have
not the Spirit of Christ, he is none of His (Romans
8:5-9).
Masturbation
encourages the use of sex toys for gratification. People who are not satisfied with God’s plan
for sex commit idolatry by using “accursed things” to experience unnatural and
unlawful forms of sexual intercourse.
And you, in any wise keep yourselves
from the accursed thing, lest you make yourselves accursed, when you
take of the accursed thing, and make the camp of Israel a curse, and trouble it
(Joshua 6:18).
REASONS WHY PEOPLE MASTURBATE
Impatience—they
are unwilling to wait on God for sexual provision.
It
constitutes “safe sex” while maintaining physical virginity
Self-pity
They
love pleasure
They
think it is a “healthy release” of sexual tension
To
complement a pornography habit
To
self-medicate frustration or stress
To
self-medicate the pain of abuse, poor self-esteem, loneliness, rejection, etc.
CYBERSEX
The traditional
phone sex lines that were so popular back in the 1990’s are dead these
days. Why would people bother to call
them when today’s technology allows people to have webcams, online voice chat
and virtual animated sex games like Red Light Center?
The truth is
that customers can get a webcam show for the same price that they could get
phone sex 20 years ago. Some phone sex
companies still exist, but their business is very limited. The only real customers they still have are “dirty
old men” that cannot (or will not) use a computer.
If you have
slipped into the sleazy world of Cybersex, you are NOT guarding the EAR gates or EYE gates to your SOUL and SPIRIT:
For nothing is secret, that shall
not be made manifest; neither anything hid, that shall not be known and
come abroad. Take heed therefore how you hear: for whosoever has, to him shall
be given; and whosoever has not, from him shall be taken even that which he seems
to have (Luke 8:17-18);
I will set no wicked thing before my
eyes … (Psalms 101:3);
Your eyes shall behold strange
women, and your heart shall utter perverse things (Proverbs
23:33);
But I say unto you, That whosoever looks
on a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his
heart (Matthew 5:28).
For the lips of a strange woman drop
as a honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil: But her end
is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword. Her feet go down to death;
her steps take hold on hell (Proverbs 5:3-5);
The mouth of strange women is
a deep pit: he that is abhorred of the LORD shall fall therein (Proverbs 22:14)
Cybersex can
develop into a very EXPENSIVE habit,
leading to financial bondage and dependency;
Cybersex is
addictive.
Know you not, that to whom you yield
yourselves servants to obey, his servants you are to whom you obey; whether of
sin unto death, or of obedience unto righteousness? (Romans
6:16).
PORNOGRAPHY
Pornography and
Masturbation are “Siamese Twin Sins” because they are connected and go hand in
hand. Together, they are a powerful and
destructive force that has become increasingly widespread in Western culture,
particularly since the advent of the Internet where cybersex offers a
smorgasbord of imagined and unimagined demonstrations and expressions of sexual
perversion.
From a
Christian’s standpoint, sexuality holds a privileged place in human
relationships. Sexuality maintains both a sacred and a moral dimension in human
life (Genesis
2:22–25). Human sexuality is about intimacy and the biological
manifestation of our life-giving, procreative nature, evident in our
reproductive organs. Masturbation,
cybersex and pornography hijack God’s intended pattern of sexual attraction,
arousal, and response because in the real world with real people, considerable
effort has to go into cultivating a relationship that may result in a sexual
encounter.
SEXUAL
SIN
IS DEADLY to a Christian because it
is addictive, SELF-gratifying; SELF-degenerating; conducive to other
strains of corruption; corrosive; deadening to spirituality, conscience, and
reason; blinding to reality; contagious, and destructive to the BODY, SOUL and SPIRIT. UNRESTRAINED,
ALL-CONSUMING SEXUAL SIN
involving ALL THREE components is
nothing short of demon possession and must be overcome by repentance and, in
extreme cases, by The Anointing which destroys every yoke of bondage (Isaiah 10:27).
And the very God of peace sanctify
you wholly; and I pray God your whole spirit and soul and body be
preserved blameless unto the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ (1 Thessalonians 5:23).
As far as the
Church is concerned, Satan has become a master at using the addictive power of
masturbation, cybersex and pornography to hinder and prevent a Christian’s
capacity to grow spiritually and be led by the Holy Spirit. The BODY,
SOUL
and SPIRIT that
are submitted to and controlled by the Holy Spirit have no desire to masturbate
or watch pornography.
The onslaught of
pornography in all of its vicious, corroding, destructive forms has caused
great grief, suffering, heartache, and destroyed marriages. It is one of the most damning influences on
earth. Whether it be through the printed
page, movies, television, obscene lyrics, vulgarities on the telephone, or
flickering personal computer screens, pornography is overpoweringly addictive
and severely damaging. This potent tool
of Satan defiles the BODY, SOUL
and SPIRIT. All who are caught in its seductive,
tantalizing web and remain so will become addicted to its immoral, destructive
influence. For many, that addiction
cannot be overcome without help. The
tragic pattern is all too familiar. It
begins with curiosity that is fueled by its stimulation and is justified by the
false premise that when done privately, it does no harm to anyone else. For those lulled by this LIE, the
experimentation goes deeper, with more powerful stimulations, until the trap
door closes and a terribly immoral, addictive habit exercises its vicious
control.
THE ADDICTIVE POWER OF PORNOGRAPHY
As with any controlling substance,
addiction to pornography begins when a Christian “gives place to the devil” (Ephesians 4:27). The temptation to masturbate and watch
pornography is not sin. The willful DECISION TO ACT on the temptation and COMMITTING THE ACTS are what
constitutes sin. Once a Christian
crosses the line and puts out the WELCOME
mat, he opens himself up to be invaded, possessed and overcome by demon spirits
that gain entrance through the eye gates and the ear gates. These spirits include (but are not limited
to) Covetousness, Fantasy, Idolatry, Lasciviousness, Lust, Masturbation,
Obsession, Sexual Perversion and Seduction.
Collectively, these and other spirits possess and take control of the SOUL
(mind, will, imagination and emotions) and the BODY to the extent that the afflicted person becomes helplessly and
hopelessly addicted and unable to free himself from their power and
influence.
Can a born-again Christian become
addicted to masturbation, cybersex and pornography? YES! As explained earlier, a Christian’s SOUL
and BODY can become slaves to Satan!
(Romans 6:16).
More often than not, if the SOUL
and BODY of a Christian are stronger
and more dominant than his SPIRIT (which communicates with God and vice versa),
these two components can influence the SPIRIT to backslide into apostasy. This is why a Christian must CRUCIFY “SELF,” live a consecrated and
obedient life, be sober and ever vigilant (1 Peter 5:8), and to guard his EYE and/or EAR gates!
Whether a Christian believes that
masturbation and pornography are OK
or SINFUL
depends largely on his knowledge of The Bible, level of spiritual maturity, and
application of The Word and spiritual warfare.
The Truth is every person is born with a conscience and an intuition
that gives him an awareness of what is right and what is wrong.
Consider the following scenario: An impressionable
young boy finds his father’s hidden stash of porn magazines. Curiosity gets the best of him and he takes
one to his bedroom, where he is introduced to the tantalizing allure of adult
sex. After recovering from his initial
shock, will he be inclined to run to his father or mother and start asking
questions about what the pictures mean?
No. The voice of his conscience
tells him that what he did was wrong and the voice of intuition tells him that
something is innately shameful and wrong about the content. On top of that, fear of retaliation will keep
him from telling his parents that he has the magazine. So, he hides it under his mattress and looks
at the pictures when he is all alone because he likes the way the pictures make
him feel. At such a tender age, this
boy’s conscience and intuition are discerning and sensitive. However as time goes by, if he continues to
look at the magazine, his conscience will become seared and his heart hardened (1 Timothy 4:2). This is the effect that WILLFUL SIN has on the SOUL.
Consider this additional scenario: An unsaved
executive sits down in an airport terminal to wait for his flight to be called
and boarded. While he waits, he opens
his briefcase and pulls out a document which he begins reading. Hidden from view in the briefcase is also a
porn magazine. Will he pull out and begin looking at the magazine in full view
of everyone? Most likely not, because
deep inside he knows that viewing pornography is WRONG! He may be walking in
spiritual darkness because Satan has blinded his mind to the Truth of the
Gospel, but the conscience part of his SOUL still has an awareness of right and
wrong. However, without hesitation he
will look at the magazine in the privacy of his hotel room because he loves
darkness and knows that the deed is evil (John 3:19).
SO, what do these two scenarios say
about a “born again” Christian who hides the fact that he is privately and
secretly viewing pornography at home, at work, and at church? Whether he is actually saved (or just has
“head knowledge” about Jesus Christ), he will know that viewing pornography
constitutes sin. So, why does he look at
pornography and masturbate in secret?
The answer is because his conscience has become seared (1 Timothy 4:2). How did that happen? Because his BODY and SOUL are stronger than his SPIRIT
due to the fact that, instead of nourishing his SOUL and SPIRIT on The Word of God, he
indulged his CARNAL MIND and
fulfilled the lust of the eyes and flesh (1 John 2:16).
But be doers of the word, and not
hearers only, deceiving your own selves (James 1:22).
Many Christians will disagree with
me, but I believe Pornography is an INSIDIOUS
EVIL that Satan uses to undermine and destroy marriages and lives! Consider the following anonymous testimonies
of a woman whose two marriages ended in divorce because both husbands were
addicted to pornography:
TESTIMONIES
(Used by Permission—Names Withheld by Request)
MARRIAGE #1
“My
husband and I met at college in the early 70’s.
I was 24; he, 28. Although we
were not born-again Christians and the sexual revolution was in full swing, we
were morally good people and mutually agreed to remain chaste during our 1-½
year courtship.
After
tying the knot, our honeymoon was a complete bust. For reasons that my husband wasn’t willing to
discuss at the time, he demonstrated no interest or desire in consummating our
marriage. To say that this came as a
complete and unexpected shock is a gross understatement!
From
an emotional standpoint, I was taken on an unending and unforgettable roller
coaster ride. My self-confidence and
self-esteem plummeted and I found myself tumbling end-over-end into a deep well
of depression and guilt. I felt
unattractive, undesirable, insecure, fearful and inadequate. Since my husband refused to talk about the
“problem,” I felt shut out, disconnected and powerless to fix whatever was
wrong. Over time, I began to believe
that I
was the problem. Inwardly, I agonized
and cried buckets of tears. I didn’t
discuss our problem with anyone, not even my mother who, when she found out two
years later, was horrified and marveled that I had not filed for an
annulment. I certainly had grounds to do
so, but I wasn’t ready yet to throw in the towel. Everything in me hated and resisted the idea
of divorce.
One
day, while cleaning out my husband’s favorite “get away” room, I made a
disgusting discovery. In the bottom
drawer of his desk, I found a stash of pornographic magazines and a
suspicious-looking soiled rag. The
picture that these items painted in my mind left me feeling sick at my stomach
and betrayed. Discovering his “dirty
little secret” made me finally realize that he was the one with a problem, not
me.
On
numerous occasions, I tried to persuade my husband to go to a marriage
counselor with me, but he adamantly refused.
As a last ditch act of desperation, I decided to call his mother to see
if I could drop by to discuss a matter of importance. I hoped beyond hope that she might be able to
shed some light on her son’s “problem.”
I couldn’t have been more wrong.
When I met with her in private and unburdened my anguished soul, she
visibly stiffened, leveled her cold blue eyes on me, and asked, ‘Well … is sex that important to you?’ Stunned, I couldn’t believe my ears! My embarrassed reply was, ‘How can I answer
that when I haven’t as yet experienced it?’
With that, she stood to her feet, let me know that she didn’t want to
get involved, and stalked out of the room.
Stunned, I could nothing but let myself out, lamenting the fact that I
had ever held her in high esteem.
Time
passed and nothing changed. Then one
day, I decided to try once again to reason with my husband about getting
counseling. After arguing back and
forth, he suddenly plopped down, cradled his head in his hands, and began to
sob uncontrollably. Attempting to
comfort him, I asked what was wrong and he finally released the skeleton from
his family closet. I listened in stunned
disbelief as his story unfolded.
When
he was only six years old, his mother had taken him with her to find her
husband, who had been unfaithful to her for years. With her small son in tow, she found her
husband in bed with a woman who was a close family friend. That single traumatizing event—which included
seeing nudity and hearing verbal confrontation—emotionally and sexually
crippled my husband for the rest of his life.
As he grew older, this precious boy felt obligated to assume the role of
nurturer and protector of his mother.
He
also placed his mother on a pedestal and believed that no woman could ever take
her place in his life. (I’m not sure,
but I think psychiatrists refer to this as the Oedipus complex.) Anyway, it’s very sad and tragic that the man
he became had a wife who could have satisfied him sexually, but the only way
that he could express his sexuality was to get by himself and masturbate while
he looked at porn magazines.
Although
I never doubted that my husband loved me in his own way, I couldn’t cope with
being trapped in a marriage that was void of intimacy and love. I was young and didn’t have Jesus in my life
then. So on the morning of my 33rd
birthday when I looked in the mirror, I asked the hard question, ‘Is this all
there is to marriage and life?’ Tired of
living a lie for the sake of convention, I decided to separate from my husband
and file for divorce.
Three
years later, his father passed away.
Another twelve years passed and I learned that my ex had died, too. Only in his mid-fifties, he died so young,
inexorably bound to his mother who survived him only by a year.”
Definition
of Oedipus Complex:
The Oedipal
complex is a term used by Sigmund Freud in his theory of psychosexual stages of
development to describe a boy's feelings of desire for his mother and jealously
and anger towards his father. Essentially,
a boy feels like he is in competition with his father for possession of his
mother. He views his father as a rival
for her attentions and affections.
MARRIAGE #2
“My
second marriage of 17 years ended in divorce because my husband’s addiction to
pornography, strip clubs and alcohol led him to commit adultery and
get involved in filming pornography, which neither God nor I could
tolerate. I loved my husband and wanted
the marriage to work. Each time that he
promised to give up his mistress and his life of sin, I believed him and chose
to walk in love and forgiveness. But
each time, he betrayed me. Tired of
being hurt over and over again, I had a heart-to-heart talk with God. I let him know that, if He knew that my
husband’s will was never going to line up with His, I wanted to be released
from the marriage because of the call of God on my life. We were like two oxen unequally yoked
together. He was pulling to the left
while I struggled to pull to the right.
One
day while communing with the Holy Spirit in my prayer closet, I began to weep
and travail in prayer. When I asked the
Lord what was going on, I heard Him say, ‘Your marriage is dead; I release
you.’ I tested the spirit again and the
Lord spoke the same words again. Still
not convinced, I asked God for confirmation from someone that I was confident
heard God’s Voice. I left the choice of
that person entirely up to God, who was faithful to honor my prayer. The confirmation came 30 days later from my
pastor, who took me aside with his wife and told me that God had spoken to
them, independently, that my marriage was dead and that He had released
me. Two months later, I separated from
my husband and filed for divorce.
Looking
back over the twin tragedies of my marriages, I can see that I did many things
wrong. After all it takes two to
Tango. Still, whether in dance or
marriage, the man leads. Sincerely,
though, if I could go back and do things differently or better, I would.
Today
I am single, happy, and walking in the fullness of my calling, at least for
this current season. I have forgiven
myself and everyone who has ever hurt me, and I have put a disappointing and
hurtful past where it should be—behind me.
Thanks to the Anointing of the Holy Spirit, I am mentally sound and
emotionally, spiritually and physically healthy. And, thanks to my Heavenly Father, I am
immeasurably blessed! This would not be
possible had I not asked Jesus Christ to be my Savior and Lord!”
Finally,
consider the case of one of the most notorious and feared serial-killers, Ted
Bundy, whose ordinary life included attending church as a child, but changed drastically when he became involved in pornography. Before
he was finally taken off the streets, Ted Bundy was responsible for beating,
raping and murdering at least thirty girls and women between the ages of twelve
and twenty-six. Prior to his execution,
Bundy was interviewed by Christian leader, Dr. James Dobson. To read a complete transcript of Dr. Dobson’s
interview with Ted Bundy, CTRL + CLICK on the following link:
PORNOGRAPHY & THE BRAIN
God created the male brain so that
visual cues that have sexual relevance (e.g., the naked female form, solicitous
facial expressions, etc.) have a hypnotic effect on him. When these cues are detected, they trigger a
cascade of neurological, chemical, and hormonal events. In some ways they are like the “hit” effect of
a drug—a rush of sexual arousal and energy accompanies it.
In men, there are four noteworthy
chemicals involved in sexual arousal and response:
Testosterone is the male
hormone that seems to drive sexual interest. When sexual cues are identified by
the brain, a surge of testosterone production is triggered;
Dopamine which is a
neurotransmitter that is known to underlie all drugs of addiction. Often dopamine is referred to as a pleasure
chemical. It provides the rush that men
feel when they view pornography;
Norepinephrine is a
significant player in promoting sexual arousal. It is a cousin to adrenaline chemically, and
it is involved in helping the body prepare for sexual activity. Nor epinephrine
helps to store sexual memories and get these images stuck in the brain;
Endogenous opiates—The key event
in determining whether or not viewing pornography becomes a habitual pattern is
going to be the release of endogenous opiates produced during sexual release
(most notably in response to orgasm). According to studies, many men have reported
that this experience is accompanied by feelings of transcendence and euphoria
that are known to be related to the release of endogenous opiates. When the viewer sexually acts out, resulting
in orgasm, it gets stored as a behavior that is known to have a significant
payoff. That significant payoff is the
release of opiates that provide the chemical substrate for the psychological
experience of orgasm.
DETRIMENTAL EFFECTS OF PORNOGRAPHY
PORN neuters many men, making them
sexually incompetent, as was the case with Husband #1 in the previous testimony. Husbands should be turned on by, and
associate orgasm with the kiss, feel, sight and body of his wife. But if he views an endless source of cybersex
pornographic images, he will lose interest in his wife and be turned on by what
he is viewing on the internet. Erotic
images are becoming substitutes for the beauty and love of a real woman, whose nudity
is then considered “bad porn;”
PORN can lead to rape and murder and
escalate to greater heights of debauchery and perversion, Ted Bundy being a
prime example;
PORN contributes to social and psychological
problems within men who:
Are afflicted
with low self-esteem
Become
controlling
Become depressed
Become dissociative
Become
introverted and isolated
Become
narcissistic
Neglect their
other responsibilities
Spend money they
don’t have
PORN creates an emotional bond with
an artificial world. Real sex and even
the real world become boring in comparison;
PORN invites demon spirits into your
home, office and church;
PORN is a cheap imitation of and
substitution for the priceless gifts of God (nurture, intimacy and love);
PORN is Satan’s lie about what it
means to be male and female. Women
become reprogrammed to see themselves entitled and worthy of seeking sexual
gratification from men that will please them in any way imaginable or unimaginable.
Men begin to see themselves as studs that
are entitled to use women any way they want.
Their penis and performance become their focus and gods. They become soulless, unfeeling robots who
are incapable of bonding with, feeling empathy, respect or love for women they
have sex with;
PORN rewires the male brain to the
extent that it causes men to demean women and see them as objects rather than
as women created in the image of God (Genesis 1:26). (Read: Struthers: Wired For Intimacy, p85);
PORN turns sex into masturbation
which is SELF-serving
instead of the SELF-giving,
reciprocating intimacy that God intended;
WOMEN lose because they are groomed
and reprogrammed to think that their most worthy attribute is their sexual
allure, to devalue or exclude their “wholeness.”
CHILD PORNOGRAPHY
[Jesus is
speaking]: And whosoever shall offend one of these little ones [children]
that believe in Me, it is better for him that a millstone were hanged about his
neck, and he were cast into the sea (Mark 9:42).
[Emphasis Added]
Money is the driving force behind child trafficking and porn, which are
the fastest growing crimes in America! Shockingly,
half of all global child porn is produced in America. In 2013 alone, it was reported that there was
a national crisis of federal employees engaged in the child porn industry and a
related epidemic at the state level. Two
states were cited as running state protected child trafficking rings with
evidence of cops, judges, lawyers, clergy and government employees covering for
each other. This kind of racketeering creates
powerful and extremely profitable pedophile rings.
Incest, sexual
molestation, rape, sodomy, child pornography, exhibitionism and exploitation
are terms most often used when describing child sexual abuse. Sexual abuse can be physical—including genital
or oral stimulation, fondling and intercourse; non-physical—including indecent
exposure, obscene phone calls or "peeping toms"; and/ or violent—as
in rape or other forms of sexually violent behavior.
Incidents of
child sexual abuse are damaging whether they occur only once, are repeated many
times, or last over a number of years. A
single, seemingly minor incident, (e.g. indecent exposure, fondling or an
obscene phone call), may cause temporary emotional disturbances such as
embarrassment, fear, confusion, guilt, anxiety, and a distrust of adults or strangers.
More severe
incidents of sexual abuse, such as incest, rape, sodomy, exposure to
pornographic activity or other forms of sexual violence, may have a lasting
effect on the child. Behavioral problems
may include withdrawal, difficulty at school, aggression, running away,
nightmares, and extreme anxiety or depression. In some cases symptoms of childhood sexual
abuse may not appear until adulthood.
Those who
sexually victimize children often suffer from an emotional or psychological
dysfunction, usually as a result of their own previous sexual victimization. They often have severe sexual problems and
difficulty relating to adults. Most are
adults with whom the child is familiar, and they may repeatedly abuse the same
child. An adult who is a stranger to the
child will often abuse that child only once but may continue to abuse other
children. Factors to be aware of
include:
The majority
of child molesters are men who abuse both boys and girls. Women make up a small percentage of those who
sexually abuse children;
A large
percentage of those who sexually abuse children were themselves victims of
sexual abuse as children;
The majority
of all sexual molestation is committed by someone the child knows or trusts (e.g.,
a family member, relative, baby-sitter, neighbor or authority figure);
Studies
indicate that half of all child molesters are under the age of 31 and only
about 10% are more than 50 years of age.
I believe that sins
committed against children are the most reprehensible and warrant the severest
punishment. For sure, there will be a
special place of eternal punishment in Hell for pedophiles!
THE STATISTICS ARE STAGGERING & DON’T LIE!
SATAN IS BUSY, CHURCH! Cybersex
and Pornography has become a MULTI-BILLION
DOLLAR ENTERPRISE! 47% of tested
subjects watch between 30 minutes to three hours of porn per day, 30% said
that watching porn affected their productivity at work and 20% said they would rather watch
porn than have sex with their partner!
World-wide
Size of the Industry = $57 billion; The United States = $12 billion
Adult Videos =
$20 billion
Escort Services
= $11 billion
Magazines = $7.5
billion
Sex Clubs = $5
billion
Phone Sex = $4.5
billion
Cable & Pay
Per View = $2.5 billion
Internet = $2.5
billion
CD-Rom = $1.5
billion
Novelties = $1
billion
Other = $1.5 billion
Porn revenue is larger than all
combined revenues of all professional football, baseball and basketball
franchises.
U. S. porn revenue exceeds the
combined revenues of ABC, CBS, and NBC ($6.2 billion)
Child pornography generates $3
billion annually.
Internet Porn Statistics
Average daily pornographic emails/user 4.5 per Internet user
Daily Gnutella “child pornography” requests 116 thousand
Daily pornographic emails 2.5 billion (8% of total emails)
Daily pornographic search engine requests 68 million (25% of
total search engine requests)
Monthly Pornographic downloads (Peer-to-peer) 1.5 billion
(35% of all downloads)
Pornographic pages 372 million
Pornographic websites 4.2 million (12% of total websites)
Sexual solicitations of youth made in chat rooms 89%
Websites offering illegal child pornography 100 thousand
Worldwide visitors to pornographic web sites 72 million
annually
Youths who received sexual solicitation 20%
Children's Exposure to Pornography
Average age of first Internet exposure to pornography is 11
years old
Largest consumer of Internet pornography 12-17 age group
15-17 year-olds having multiple hard-core exposures 80%
8-16 year-olds having viewed porn online 90% (most while
doing homework)
7-17 year-olds who would freely give out home address 29%
7-17 year-olds who would freely give out email address 14%
Children's characters linked to thousands of porn links 26
(including Pokeman and Action Man)
Adult Internet Porn Statistics
Men admitting to accessing pornography at work 20%
U. S. adults who regularly visit Internet pornography
websites 40 million
Promise
Keeper men who viewed pornography in the last week 53%
Christians
who said pornography is a major problem in the home 47%
Adults admitting to Internet sexual addiction 10%
Breakdown of male/female visitors to pornography sites 72%
male - 28% female
Women and Pornography
13% of Women admit to accessing pornography at work.
70% of Women keep their cyber activities secret.
17% of all women struggle with pornography addiction.
Women, far more than men, are likely to act out their
behaviors in real life, such as having multiple partners, casual sex, or
affairs.
Women favor chat rooms 2X more than men.
1 of 3 visitors to all adult web sites are women.
9.4 million women access adult web sites each month.
PRAYER OF DELIVERANCE
FOR THOSE WHO WANT TO BE FREE!!!
HEAVENLY
FATHER, in the name of Jesus Christ, I renounce Satan and
his works in my life. Please forgive me
for not resisting temptation. Forgive me
for deriving pleasure from the sin(s) of (masturbation, cybersex, pornography).
Forgive me for everything that has been
unforgiven to this point. Father, I am
so sorry! Please close every open channel
and door and break all legal grounds that demons and spirits are using to harm
me. I take authority over all forces of
evil and sexual demons that have been harming me and I destroy your connections
to my mind, subconscious, emotions, sexual organs, dreams, past, memories, past
sins, desires, eyes and ears, and I destroy your connection to my want and satisfaction
and desire for sexual pleasures now. In
the name of Jesus Christ, I bind and cast out all demons of incubus, succubus,
Eldora, mare, demons of masturbation, and I command you to leave me now in the
name of Jesus. I break all evil
connections that have attached to all parts of me and I command you to leave me
now and go to the pit. In the name of
Jesus, you are powerless and harmless against me. Your assignments against me are broken,
cancelled and destroyed in the name of Jesus Christ who died for my sins. Father, please destroy all evil links and
soul-ties to me that I have not yet named. Lord please unhook and remove all remaining
demonic attachments to me now in the name of Jesus Christ. Precious Holy Spirit, burn and destroy all
evil impressions, connections, implantations, and residues that evil has left
behind and remove them from me now. Father God, please remove all evil connections
to visions, memories, images, pleasures, past experiences, things I have seen
or thought, and burn it all now in Jesus’ name. I command all demons spirits to leave me now, in
the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth. Lord
burn now all evil openings, connections, ties, and chords through which this
evil is coming, in the name of Jesus.
HOW TO STAY FREE
DECIDE TO STOP viewing
pornography and COMMIT TO YOUR DECISION;
SUBMIT YOURSELF
TO GOD, RESIST TEMPTATION, and Satan will flee from you (James 4:7);
GUARD YOUR EYE
and EAR GATES
by staying out of public places that sell and promote pornography (strip clubs,
adult book/video stores, etc.)
DELETE from your cell
phone and computer, all references to pornography, including links, phone
numbers, etc.
INSTALL a software
program on your computer(s) that prevents you, your wife and children from
visiting porn sites. If you are married
and have children, warn your family about the dangers of pornography;
DISCONNECT from people that
you know who are into pornography;
CONNECT and BOND with mature
Christian men who will encourage, support and strengthen you.
Blessings!
ADDITIONAL SCRIPTURES PERTAINING TO THIS TEACHING
You have heard that it was said by
them of old time, You shall not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That
whosoever looks on a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her
already in his heart (Matthew 5:27-28);
Love not the world, neither the
things that are in the world. If
any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust
of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father,
but is of the world. And the world passes
away, and the lust thereof: but he that does the will of God abides forever (1 John
2:15-17);
I made a covenant with my eyes; why
then should I think upon a maid? (Job 31:1);
To keep you from the evil woman,
from the flattery of the tongue of a strange woman. Lust not after her beauty in your heart;
neither let her take you with her eyelids. For by means of a whorish woman a man is
brought to a piece of bread: and the adulteress will hunt for the precious
life. Can a man take fire in his bosom,
and his clothes not be burned? Can one
go upon hot coals, and his feet not be burned? So he that goes in to his neighbor's wife;
whosoever touches her shall not be innocent. Men do not despise a thief, if he steal
to satisfy his soul when he is hungry; But if he be found, he shall
restore sevenfold; he shall give all the substance of his house. But
whoso commits adultery with a woman lacks understanding: he that does it
destroys his own soul. A wound and
dishonor shall he get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away (Proverbs
6:24-33);
I will set no wicked thing before my
eyes: I hate the work of them that turn aside; it shall not cleave to me
(Psalms
101:3);
For the weapons of our warfare are
not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strongholds; Casting
down imaginations, and every high thing that exalts itself against the
knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of
Christ (2
Corinthians 10:4-5);
Hell and destruction are never full;
so the eyes of man are never satisfied (Proverbs 27:20).
[Jesus is speaking]: And whosoever
shall offend one of these little ones [children] that believe in Me, it
is better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he were cast
into the sea (Mark
9:42). [Emphasis Added]
[Jesus is speaking]: Then said He
unto the disciples, It is impossible but that offences will come: but woe unto
him, through whom they come! It were better for him that a millstone were
hanged about his neck, and he cast into the sea, than that he should offend one
of these little ones [children] (Luke 17:1-2). [Emphases Added]
And, you fathers, provoke not your
children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4).
Then were there brought unto Him
little children, that He should put His hands on them, and pray: and the
disciples rebuked them. But Jesus said, Suffer little children, and forbid them
not, to come unto Me: for of such is the kingdom of heaven. And He laid his
hands on them, and departed thence (Matthew 19:13-15).
At the same time came the disciples
unto Jesus, saying, Who is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven? And Jesus
called a little child unto Him, and set him in the midst of them, And said,
Verily I say unto you, Except you be converted, and become as little children, you
shall not enter into the kingdom of heaven (Matthew 18:1-3).
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